Starting Out

If you have never bought anything like this before, here is the honest version — including the parts a shop is not supposed to tell you.

Buy less than you think, and smaller than you think

The most common first-purchase mistake is buying something too big, too intense, or too specific. It gets used once and lives in a drawer forever. Start modest. You can always escalate; you cannot un-buy.

Buy lube. Yes, you need lube

More people regret skipping lube than any other decision here. Water-based works with everything. It is cheap, and it is the difference between a good experience and a bad one.

Materials matter more than features

A simple body-safe silicone toy beats an elaborate porous one with twelve vibration patterns. You will use two of those patterns. Spend the money on the material.

Rechargeable, not battery

Rechargeable motors are stronger, quieter, and do not die halfway through. Battery toys are cheaper for a reason.

What “waterproof” actually means

Splashproof means you can rinse it. Submersible means it can go in the bath. They are not the same word and manufacturers are not always careful about which one they use.

Anything anal needs a flared base

Not negotiable, not a preference. A flared base wider than the widest insertable part. The body does not have a natural stopping point there.

Clean it before the first use and after every use

New does not mean clean. See our care guide.

Nothing you want is unusual

We sell this for a living. Whatever you are quietly wondering about, someone bought it this morning.